Lack of—or Erroneous—Beliefs
The fact is, people who consistently achieve their goals think differently than those who don’t. They have different beliefs and they focus on different things.
Our beliefs affect our thoughts, our thoughts drive our feelings and our feelings determine the actions we take—or don’t take. The genesis of our results is our beliefs—or lack thereof.
So lack of—or erroneous—beliefs is the second biggest reason why smart, hard-working, well intentioned people don’t always succeed.
If you don’t believe you will win, you’ll never try. You have to believe that you will prevail, you have to believe in your path, and you have to believe in yourself.
Of course, no accomplishment is guaranteed. But you have to have some reasonable expectation you can hit your target—otherwise, why bother.
If someone else has accomplished what you want to accomplish, you know it can be done. And if it’s never been done, you can be first.
Do whatever you need to do to get your belief to a point where you know you can do it.
“To accomplish great things, we must not only act,
but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.”
In 1969, the New York Mets won the World Series. Until then, this hapless team—only 7 years old—had been the laughing stock of the league. One day, Tug McGraw, their pitcher, said to his team, “You gotta believe.” For some reason, the media picked up on this. So did the fans. And that whole summer the slogan became the mantra for a world championship.
So, like the Met’s, You Gotta Believe.
Beliefs Create Our Attitude and Outlook Toward Life
The story is told of a traveler, who upon approaching a great city, asked a man by the wayside, “What are the people like in this city?”
The wise, old man responded, “How were the people where you came from?”
“A terrible bunch,” the traveler responded. “Mean, untrustworthy, detestable in all respects.”
“Well,” said the sage, “You’ll find them much the same in the city ahead.”
Soon after the first traveler had gone, another one stopped and also inquired about the people in the nearby city. Again, the old man asked about the people in the place from which the traveler had come.
“They were fine people: honest, industrious and generous to a fault. I was sorry to leave,” declared the second traveler.
The sage responded, “And so you will find them in the city ahead.”
Our beliefs—and our expectations created by our beliefs—are powerful things indeed. What you believe dramatically affects your life.
I’m fond of saying, “We don’t always get what we want, but we almost always get what we expect.”
And yet, how often do we seriously examine what we believe to be true? Could you articulate what you believe in your heart?
My research has shown that successful people—those who consistently achieve what they set out to do—have different beliefs than those who are unsuccessful.
Some of these beliefs came from their background. Many of them were picked up from their parents. Others were acquired later in life. They chose them.
They don’t begrudge the success of others. They don’t expect something for nothing.
They believe that opportunities abound in any economy. They have a consciousness of abundance. They are generous. They believe in patience.
And, they believe in themselves. They expect to win.
Example: It’s very common for first-generation immigrants to America to be more economically successful than their American native counterparts.
The reason is they expect to succeed. They perceive America as a land of opportunity, and they work hard to take advantage of it. They’ve been told that anyone can be successful. They succeed because they believe they will.
“To believe in the things you can see and touch is no belief at all:
but to believe in the unseen is a triumph and a blessing.”
Our beliefs create our view of the world.
Many people think they ARE their beliefs. They think that what they believe is who they are.
But we are not our beliefs. We have beliefs. And we have choice—if we’re aware—of what we believe and what we want to believe.
“The thing always happens that you really believe in;
and the belief in a thing makes it happen.”
—Frank Lloyd Wright
Installing New Belief Systems
Be open to new ideas and new beliefs. One person described insanity as doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. If that’s the case, holding the same unhelpful and damaging beliefs will likely produce the same results. Expecting them to do differently is well, crazy.
It’s imperative that we stay aware of beliefs that no longer serve us and open ourselves to ideas and beliefs that support us in being our best.
Hold fast to those beliefs that work and be willing to discard those that don’t.
Sounds easy, doesn’t it—but observe how rarely this is done.
“One person with a belief is equal to a force of
ninety-nine who have only interest.”
—John Stewart Mill
When we choose to embrace a more effective belief, we often have to integrate it into our psyche, and affirmations can be very effective.
We don’t say affirmations to make them true; we say them because they’re true. The intention is to convince ourselves of what we know to be true.
Tony Robbins says, “All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs.” I agree.
We must stand guard at the door of our mind. What we listen to, what we read, who we hang out with and what we think about affects our beliefs. By being aware and mindful of what we believe, we can position ourselves to succeed and live more balanced and fulfilling lives.
- SmartGuide to Affirmative Power, by Jack Roberts
We’ve not seen anything as complete and as well-researched as this book on the subject of Affirmations.
- The Magic of Believing, by Claude M. Bristol
This is a classic—a must-have for your library
- Awaken the Giant Within, by Anthony Robbins
Effective strategies and techniques for mastering your emotions, your body, your relationships, your finances and your life.
- Our all-new Best Life Navigator™ is launching November 15th. Think of it as your Swiss Army Knife for creating an exceptional life. It’s a place where you can journal and store your list of beliefs—what you stand for and what you care deeply about. It has a place for your personal creed. In addition, it allows you to keep these lists front and center. It has all the tools you need for your success—all in one place.
- Your Core Values. Our most popular course helps you discover your top 5 core values which makes every decision you make for the rest of your life MUCH easier.
“He can who thinks he can, and he can’t who thinks he can’t.
This is an inexorable, indisputable law.”
- Continue adding to your Dream List.
- Begin to select some of the most important of them as potential goals.
- Narrow that list to three goals.
- For each of your top goals, write down the reasons why you want to achieve it. List all the benefits and pay-offs to accomplishing the goal.
- Make a list of all of your beliefs. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
- What are my empowering beliefs?
- Which ones support me?
- What do I stand for?
- What are my Core Values?
- What are my dis-empowering beliefs?
- Which beliefs detract from my success?
Stay tuned for the next installment of The Top 10 Reasons Good People Don’t Always Win. Do you have a guess as to what might be the next of the Top 10 Reasons?
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“Your chances of success in any undertaking can
always be measured by your belief in yourself.”
— Robert Collier