Inadequate Support (5th in a 10-Part Series)

“You can do anything as long as you have the passion,
the drive, the focus, and the support.”

—Sabrina Bryan

Many people feel very much alone on the road to success. And some people actually are. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to go it alone. In fact, trying to go it alone is a fool’s errand.

Whether you own your own business or work for someone else, you need to have the right kind of support to be successful. Just like a table needs legs and a house needs a foundation, you need to be supported in living your best life.

Do you have the support you need? Are you sure?
Do you know what areas of your support system that need shoring up?
Do you know how to get the help you need?

In addressing this issue, I have the following major premises:

1. If you can accomplish your goal by yourself, you probably don’t have a big enough goal.

2. Everything is easier with help and support—and more fun, too.

3. Having a team increases your confidence and allows you to think bigger.

4. There’s no need to re-invent the wheel.

And these are what I see as the biggest enemies of having sufficient support:

1. Pride, arrogance 

2. Stubbornness

3. Not realizing how important proper support is.

4. Having a “Maverick Complex”

5. Not knowing where to turn

6. Thinking you can’t afford it

Any one of these things can hold you back, and even stop you from creating the support network you need and want.

Our purpose here at SuccessNet is to help great people and great companies to become even better. We exist to support you in being your best. So we are all about support and have been for almost 20 years.

The Inner Circle
Our Inner Circle program provides training, one-on-one access to me and a connection to a powerful network of great people. You can find out more about The Inner Circle here . . .

Delegation
Delegating some of your work load to others is one of the simplest ways to create support. It’s not always easy at first because many times those you delegate to will not do things as well as you do. But it’s essential to leveraging yourself.

Having a personal assistant is most likely the first best step. And this might seem a bit strong, but you either have an assistant or you are one.

Master Mind Teams
You can form your own Master Mind Team. A master mind team is simply a small group of people who band together to help each other achieve their goals. For more info on this very powerful strategy, re-read the chapter on The Master Mind in Think and Grow Rich.

Hire a Coach
Every single successful person I’ve ever studied had a mentor—in many cases, several. Professional athletes have coaches. Why shouldn’t you? Feel free to contact me if you are interested in me coaching you in creating your best life.

Board of Directors
If you own a small business, I strongly urge you to have an active board of directors—or at least an advisory board. People are glad to help by providing their experience, perspective and collective wisdom.

Reserves
Having reserves gives you much more confidence and less chance for fear. Things like cash, good credit, a pre-approved credit line. Budgeting more time than you think you will need is another way to build up reserves.

The important thing is to bolster your life and your endeavors with reserves.

Tools
Having the tools you need, the machinery that’s required and the equipment you want to do the job right is all part of the support game. Buy, rent or borrow what you need to get things done.

Your Environment
The people and things around you have a profound impact on you and your ability to achieve. You must take charge of who and what you allow into your life. And you cannot afford to have negative people and unsupportive physical environments drag you down.

Professional Support Team
Be sure you have access to attorneys, accountants and industry-specific experts.

Lifelong Learning
The knowledge and wisdom you possess is an integral part of your support network. What you know and what you learn are powerful confidence and support builders. Commit to lifetime learning and never-ending improvement. Because the biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.

“You can’t learn less.”

—Bucky Fuller

I’ve seen far too many well-intentioned, hard-working, sincere people struggle and even fail because they were unaware or didn’t pay close enough attention to creating and maintaining a winning support system.

Take a hard, honest look at your support system—or lack thereof. Having great support positions you for winning. Not having it sets you up for losing. It’s that simple.

Resources
The Best Life Navigator™ launches soon. It allows you to keep your personal and professional growth front and center. And it’s uniquely designed to provide you with full support at your fingertips. It has the tools you need for your success—all in one place.

Action Steps

1. Identify your top 3 areas of support to improve

2. List 3 action steps you will take to do so

3. Take those steps

If you would like to explore any of these strategies in more depth, we are happy to help. Please contact us via our Help Desk.

Stay tuned for the next installment of The Top 10 Reasons Good People Don’t Always Win. You’ll receive it in the next few days. Do you have a guess as to what might be the next of the Top 10 Reasons?

Please Tell Us What You Think
I’ve published this article and the previous one here on my Blog. Please add your comments, questions and suggestions at the bottom of the post. Your feedback and engagement is important. If you disagree with anything, say so. If you have questions, ask. If you have additional insights or resources, please share. I promise to read every one. Thank you.

BTW, you’ll gain even greater value from this series if you have a copy of my book, The Achievement Code: The 3C Formula for Getting What You Truly Want (available in print or Kindle). Details at www.TheAchievementCode.com

Previous installments of this series are located here on my Blog.

1. Insufficient Desire

2. Lack of—or Erroneous—Beliefs

3. Confusion, Lack of Clarity

4. Lack of Focus and Concentration

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Lack of Focus & Concentration (4th in a 10-Part Series)

In every survey we’ve ever conducted here at SuccessNet, lack of focus has always come up as one of the top three problems faced by our readers.

Distractions and competition for our focus has never been greater. TV, eMail, phones, and 24-hour news are all screaming for our attention. We feel tugged at from every direction. Our priorities get challenged and tested, and we must exert extra effort to stay focused and concentrated on our most important objectives.

For many people, chaos has become the norm. They are rarely sure of the next best action to take and they feel put upon, strung out, disorganized and uncertain.

The goal should be a focused life—on ourselves, others, as well as environment and events.

“Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives:
where we focus our attention.”

—Greg Anderson

That’s why we created The Navigator. It’s number one job is Clarity. And it’s number two job is Focus.

But before we get started on this topic, let’s review where we’ve been.
Note: All previous installments are located here on my Blog.

1. Insufficient Desire

2. Lack of—or Erroneous Beliefs

3. Confusion, Lack of Clarity

Back to Focus . . .
The ability to focus is not something you either have or don’t have. It’s more like a muscle that needs exercise and training. And we want to develop the skill to have selective attention. At the same time, we have to have the ability to understand the big picture AND focus on the small actions that affect the big picture.

  • Enemies of Focus
  • Distractions
  • Tolerations
  • Drama
  • Poor health, low energy, fatigue
  • Focusing on our weaknesses
  • Unsupportive environment
  • Unclear boundaries
  • Disorder and disorganization
  • Multi-tasking
  • Not operating in present time
  • BSO Syndrome

Strategies for More Focus . . .

Selective Attention
It’s about choice. Much of focus is about saying no. We have to be able to say no to things that distract us. And we have to say no to the good in order to say yes to the great.

When Steve Jobs returned to Apple after having been fired from his own company years earlier, they were losing money—a lot of money.

One of the first things he did was to eliminate many of the various models of computers they were building to satisfy requests from retailers. By focusing on fewer products, they could do a better job and increase profit margins. The very next year they started turning a profit.

Concentration is about avoiding the things that distract us and actively directing our focus—sometimes by not focusing on some things.

Clutter & Disorder
Order and organization may not sound all that sexy or fun, but it supports our efforts to concentrate. Being organized simply makes it easier to concentrate. When things are in disarray or out of place, when priorities are unclear, when things are unplanned, chaos rules the day.

Contrary to what some people think, order and structure doesn’t hinder creativity. In fact, it supports it. So de-clutter on a regular basis. Consider hiring a professional organizer to get you started.

“Out of clutter, find simplicity.”

—Albert Einstein

PMA
Having a positive, confident attitude creates a good environment for focus. Your mind operates more effectively and you have more energy. It’s just easier.

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”

—Thomas Jefferson

Distractions
What are distractions? Distractions are anything that interrupts or diverts our attention, energy or activities away from our intended outcome or actions.

And distractions aren’t all bad. We need some distraction from time to time. We need to take breaks and distractions can serve a positive purpose—so long as they’re done consciously.

It’s the distractions that take us away unintentionally that need to be dealt with.

You can’t avoid them all. Things happen outside our control. The key is to minimize them as much as possible and have contingency plans and tactics to overcome them when they occur.

Tolerations
We all have things in our life that we tolerate. These can be a big source of distractions to us and sap our energy. By identifying them and targeting them for elimination, we improve our ability to focus and concentrate on what will get us closer to our objectives.

Poor Health, Low Energy and Fatigue
It’s been said that health is the first wealth. And I agree. I’ve been blessed with good health. And I hope you are, too. Certainly there is a fair amount of our health that’s not completely in our hands. In those cases, we must play the hand we’re dealt—however unfair it might seem.

Poor health can be a distraction or an outright obstacle in your desire for focus and concentration. It’s incumbent on you to take as good care of your physical and mental health as possible. It’s part of positioning yourself to win.

“Fatigue makes cowards of us all.”

—Vince Lombardi

Getting good rest, managing our energy and healthy eating all contribute to having the energy and vitality to achieve what we want.

It’s mostly common sense. And it gets easier to do when we’re committed to our goals and dedicated to their achievement. Resolve to be in the best physical and mental shape to succeed.

Meditation
Focus requires rest. And meditation is a good way for our minds and bodies to rest and become centered. Notice when your mind wanders—and it will. It happens during meditation and it happens when we are working on a project. The key is to notice—and then refocus ourselves on the task at hand.

Be Grateful
Gratefulness focuses us on what we want rather than on what we don’t. An attitude of gratitude goes a long way toward opening ourselves to greater focus and concentration.

BSOS – Bright and Shiny Object Syndrome
Many innovative, creative, hardworking people suffer from what I like to call Bright and Shiny Object Syndrome. They chase off after interesting, pleasurable, opportunistic ideas and projects—to the detriment of their current goal or project.

Like the two sirens in Homer’s Odyssey, they can be highly seductive. And you must find ways to overcome their temptation. Your next great idea is often poison to your current project or goal. You must steel yourself from the lure of BSOS.

Love What You Do
Doing work you love that’s consistent with your values makes focus much easier.

“Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day of your life.”

—Confucius

Power of Three’s
OK, so we can’t always stick to one point. And we rarely can only focus on one project at a time. We need to be able to juggle and manage multiple priorities.

I’ve always believed that three is a powerful number. We find it in some very significant places. The most powerful physical structure is a triangle or pyramid. In fact, it’s the building block of Buckminster Fuller’s geodesic domes and the Great Pyramids of Egypt. There may be four sides to a pyramid, but the strength of its structure is from the triangle.

As we become immersed in an ocean of information, possibilities and directions, it becomes even more important for us to focus on the things that are truly important to us—the things that will make a difference in the quality of our lives.

Three things can easily be remembered. Any more than that and retention suffers. We can all sharpen our focus and get better results by using the Rule of Three in our daily lives.

It’s quite possible that if you have more than three priorities, you don’t really have any priorities.

Resources

  • The Best Life Navigator™ launches soon. It allows you to keep your personal and professional growth front and center. And becoming Fiercely Focused is one of its goals. It has the tools you need for your success—all in one place.
  • Previous installments of this series . . . www.MichaelAngier.com
    • Insufficient Desire
    • Lack of—or Erroneous—Beliefs
    • Confusion, Lack of Clarity

Take Action

  1. Pick your top 3 enemies of focus
  2. Determine your 3 highest pay-off activities for achieving your goals
  3. Use The Power of Three for your To Do List

“By narrowing your focus, you broaden your horizons.”

Stay tuned for the next installment of The Top 10 Reasons Good People Don’t Always Win. Do you have a guess as to what might be the next of the Top 10 Reasons?

Please Tell Us What You Think
I’ve published this article and the previous one here on my Blog. Please add your comments, questions and suggestions at the bottom of the post. Your feedback and engagement is important. If you disagree with anything, say so. If you have questions, ask. If you have additional insights or resources, please share. I promise to read every one. Thank you.

BTW, you’ll gain even greater value from this series if you have a copy of my book, The Achievement Code: The 3C Formula for Getting What You Truly Want (available in print or Kindle). Details at www.TheAchievementCode.com

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Why Good People Don’t Always Win (3rd in a 10-part series)

 

3. Confusion, Lack of Clarity

“It’s amazing how confused, distracted and
misdirected so many people are.”

—Stephen Covey

Very few people I know would describe themselves as confused. I guess no one wants to admit that. But most people are unclear on what their top goals are, what the next best step is in achieving the objectives they do have, and are unclear about their values and their beliefs. So I think confusion is an accurate description.

It may even be worse than that. If you’re cognitive of being clearly confused, you can make efforts to become clear. But if you are chronically clueless, it’s pretty hard to make changes. The ideal is to be confidently clear.

As you can see, these Top 10 Reasons Why Good People Don’t Always Win are intertwined and connected. Insufficient desire and lack of belief certainly affect our state of clarity and add to our confusion.

In the world of marketing, we often say that a confused mind takes no action. When someone isn’t sure what to do, or has too many choices, their fallback position is to do nothing. And doing nothing is hardly a winning strategy.

Are you really clear on what you want and why you want it? I urge you not to answer too quickly. Think about it carefully

Can you clearly articulate what your top 3 goals are and why you want them (#1 Desire)? Do you know what you believe (#2 Belief)? And are you solid in those beliefs?

I believe clarity leads to power. Being clear and congruent attracts success. And it attracts people of like mind. Being clear in your resolve and clear in your communication definitely places you at the head of the pack. The world stands aside for someone with good clear ideas, strong plans and a powerful commitment.

Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Unfortunately it usually takes a crisis for us to take a cold, hard look at ourselves. Few of us consistently reflect on what we do, our motives, what works and what doesn’t. Having thoughts go through our head isn’t thinking. Real thinking comes from asking and answering questions: who, what, when, where, why—and why NOT?

“Clarity is the counterbalance of profound thoughts.”

—Luc de Clapiers

I focused a third of my last book, The Achievement Code, on clarity. I talked about clarity of purpose, belief, goals, planning and communication. Clarity is the first C of the 3-C Formula for getting what you truly want and it’s essential to living your best life.

And a large part of the Best Life Navigator™ is devoted to having more clarity—and as a result—more power and control over your destiny. It provides the placeholders and creates the template for understanding yourself and having less confusion and more right action in your life.

It’s your Swiss Army knife for creating an exceptional life. It asks the tough questions and makes it easier to understand yourself better. In doing so, you’ll see things more clearly, make better decisions, have more confidence and achieve more of what you want. I’m really looking forward to sharing it with you.

With all due respect to Socrates, the unlived life isn’t worth examining. Who DOESN’T want to lead a life of meaning, significance, adventure and fun? But to do that, we must dedicate ourselves to clear thinking and having clear perspectives rather than being confused and perplexed. Otherwise we will remain so. If you don’t have a system for doing this, you are seriously handicapped. We’ll talk more about systems in a later installment of this series.

Tolerations
One of the ways to get clear on what you want is to get clear on what you don’t want. And making a list of things you are tolerating in your life is a great start. For more information on what you are tolerating in your life, see my article on our website on this page . . .

Reflection/Clarity Tool
The following questions can be used as an agenda for a meeting and also as a process for reflection and clarification: What’s Working? What’s Not Working? What’s Next? It’s simple, it’s easy to use. And it works.

So what should you be clear about? Here are some ideas:

  • Your purpose and mission

  • Your core values

  • Your roles

  • Your top goals

  • What makes you happy

  • What’s not working

  • Your tolerations

  • Your priorities in terms of time investment

  • Plans of action for goals and projects

And all of these are addressed in The Best Life Navigator™.

We must be the change we wish to see in the world.”

—Mahatma Gandhi

Resources

How to Deliver Highly Effective Presentations
6-Module Course to help you make career-changing presentations. (includes several free bonuses) www.SuccessNetPresentations.com

The Power of Words
(no-cost bonus for recipients of this series—not to be shared) www.SuccessNet.org/files/wordpower.pdf

The Best Life Navigator™ launches November 15th. It allows you to keep your personal and professional growth front and center. Courageous clarity is its goal. And it has the tools you need for your success—all in one place.

• Previous installments of this series . . . www.MichaelAngier.com

* Insufficient Desire
* Lack of—or erroneous—Beliefs

Take Action
1. Start your tolerations list.
2. Ask yourself what you feel confused or unsure about? Make a list. The mere act of doing so begins the search for clarity.
3. Or asked another way, What would I like to get more clarity about?

“One must be careful not to confuse activity with accomplishment.”

—Michael Angier

“There is only one success—to be able to live your life in your own way.”

—Christopher Morley

BTW, you’ll gain even greater value from this series if you have a copy of my book, The Achievement Code: The 3C Formula for Getting What You Truly Want (available in print or Kindle). Details at www.TheAchievementCode.com

 

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