Happy Valentine’s Day! As people around the world shower one another with hearts, candy and flowers, I trust you and your valentine will make this day special—even if that valentine is only you.
Eighteen years ago today, I asked Dawn to marry me. She must have seen some potential in me and in us because, at the time, I had no job, no business and no money. I’m fortunate she accepted my proposal and I’m grateful to spend my life with her.
Since that time, we’ve done our best to practice love. I think love really is a verb. I know it’s much more than an emotion. Love is what you give your time and your attention to. It’s an action, even if that action is one of thought—and thoughtfulness.
I also think that to love someone, we must first love ourselves. If we don’t do that, we have little, and maybe no love, to give anyone else. And loving ourselves, just like loving another person, requires action.
What do you do to love and nurture yourself? How do you treat yourself on a regular basis? What things do you do to actively bestow love upon yourself? I hope the answers are not hard for you to find, but I think for many people they are. Loving ourselves is not a selfish act, it’s a generous one. And it allows us to have more capacity to love others.
And while we’re on the subject of love, how about loving what you do? I haven’t always loved my work. But I’ve always worked to be able to love what I do. And I love writing, sharing, serving, learning and teaching what works. And I’m very appreciative of being able to do so.
If you don’t love what you do, I encourage you to find something you do love. Because I believe that if you don’t love what you do, you’ll likely lose out to someone who does.
Life is too short to work mostly out of obligation and need. You deserve to be doing something you truly enjoy doing. You, and the people in your life, will be better off for it.
So again, Happy Valentine’s Day.
Make it a great one.