3. Confusion, Lack of Clarity
“It’s amazing how confused, distracted and
misdirected so many people are.”
Very few people I know would describe themselves as confused. I guess no one wants to admit that. But most people are unclear on what their top goals are, what the next best step is in achieving the objectives they do have, and are unclear about their values and their beliefs. So I think confusion is an accurate description.
It may even be worse than that. If you’re cognitive of being clearly confused, you can make efforts to become clear. But if you are chronically clueless, it’s pretty hard to make changes. The ideal is to be confidently clear.
As you can see, these Top 10 Reasons Why Good People Don’t Always Win are intertwined and connected. Insufficient desire and lack of belief certainly affect our state of clarity and add to our confusion.
In the world of marketing, we often say that a confused mind takes no action. When someone isn’t sure what to do, or has too many choices, their fallback position is to do nothing. And doing nothing is hardly a winning strategy.
Are you really clear on what you want and why you want it? I urge you not to answer too quickly. Think about it carefully
Can you clearly articulate what your top 3 goals are and why you want them (#1 Desire)? Do you know what you believe (#2 Belief)? And are you solid in those beliefs?
I believe clarity leads to power. Being clear and congruent attracts success. And it attracts people of like mind. Being clear in your resolve and clear in your communication definitely places you at the head of the pack. The world stands aside for someone with good clear ideas, strong plans and a powerful commitment.
Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Unfortunately it usually takes a crisis for us to take a cold, hard look at ourselves. Few of us consistently reflect on what we do, our motives, what works and what doesn’t. Having thoughts go through our head isn’t thinking. Real thinking comes from asking and answering questions: who, what, when, where, why—and why NOT?
“Clarity is the counterbalance of profound thoughts.”
—Luc de Clapiers
I focused a third of my last book, The Achievement Code, on clarity. I talked about clarity of purpose, belief, goals, planning and communication. Clarity is the first C of the 3-C Formula for getting what you truly want and it’s essential to living your best life.
And a large part of the Best Life Navigator™ is devoted to having more clarity—and as a result—more power and control over your destiny. It provides the placeholders and creates the template for understanding yourself and having less confusion and more right action in your life.
It’s your Swiss Army knife for creating an exceptional life. It asks the tough questions and makes it easier to understand yourself better. In doing so, you’ll see things more clearly, make better decisions, have more confidence and achieve more of what you want. I’m really looking forward to sharing it with you.
With all due respect to Socrates, the unlived life isn’t worth examining. Who DOESN’T want to lead a life of meaning, significance, adventure and fun? But to do that, we must dedicate ourselves to clear thinking and having clear perspectives rather than being confused and perplexed. Otherwise we will remain so. If you don’t have a system for doing this, you are seriously handicapped. We’ll talk more about systems in a later installment of this series.
One of the ways to get clear on what you want is to get clear on what you don’t want. And making a list of things you are tolerating in your life is a great start. For more information on what you are tolerating in your life, see my article on our website on this page . . .
The following questions can be used as an agenda for a meeting and also as a process for reflection and clarification: What’s Working? What’s Not Working? What’s Next? It’s simple, it’s easy to use. And it works.
So what should you be clear about? Here are some ideas:
Your purpose and mission
Your core values
Your top goals
What makes you happy
What’s not working
Your priorities in terms of time investment
Plans of action for goals and projects
And all of these are addressed in The Best Life Navigator™.
“We must be the change we wish to see in the world.”
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• The Power of Words
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• The Best Life Navigator™ launches November 15th. It allows you to keep your personal and professional growth front and center. Courageous clarity is its goal. And it has the tools you need for your success—all in one place.
• Previous installments of this series . . . www.MichaelAngier.com
* Insufficient Desire
* Lack of—or erroneous—Beliefs
1. Start your tolerations list.
2. Ask yourself what you feel confused or unsure about? Make a list. The mere act of doing so begins the search for clarity.
3. Or asked another way, What would I like to get more clarity about?
“One must be careful not to confuse activity with accomplishment.”
“There is only one success—to be able to live your life in your own way.”
BTW, you’ll gain even greater value from this series if you have a copy of my book, The Achievement Code: The 3C Formula for Getting What You Truly Want (available in print or Kindle). Details at www.TheAchievementCode.com