We all know that the only constant is change.
Sometimes change is forced upon us. We may embrace it, or we may go along kicking and screaming. But much more good change is possible when it comes from ourselves—when we CHOOSE to make changes—preferrably before things get too bad.
Whether that be a change in location, job, career, relationships, habits or whatever, the first step is awareness. And oftentimes, when things are going the way we would like, we don’t see what has become unacceptable. Things sometimes deteriorate slowly and we simply don’t recognize it. Things close to us are harder to notice. Like a child we see every day, we don’t see how fast they are growing.
So how do we stay aware and see the need to change?
We all have people in our lives who are more fun to be around than others. Is it because they’re funny? Entertaining? Wise? Interesting? I’m sure we enjoy all of that. But I think more than anything, it’s their attitude.
People who have cheerful, positive, friendly dispositions are just more enjoyable to be around. They make us feel good. And their demeanor tends to rub off on us. We’re positively affected by their positive attitude.
Conversely, people with poor attitudes tend to bring us down. We’re affected by their outlook, their complaints, their focus on themselves and many other things. They’re what I call stinking thinkers—people with Mental BO. You know the kind—the ones who light up a room—by LEAVING.
Living your best life requires that you deal well with all that comes your way.
Painful things happen to good people and sometimes pleasant things happen to bad people. If you wish to live a full life, you can expect to have some disappointments as well as triumphs. Some small, some big. Some that knock the breath out of you and some that take your breath away.
Hurt, disappointment, loss and even catastrophes come to us all.
The real test is how we respond when these things happen. Far too many people remain stuck in the pain and grief and burn up precious time, energy and emotion in something that has already happened—even when there is nothing that can be done to change it.