So you are having a bad day at work—your boss won’t listen to you, things are not going as planned, your colleagues are being jerks.
Certain work scenarios inevitably put you into a bad place, and all you can feel at that time is you losing control and your blood pressure going high. Although some people really do take out their rage onto small things like throwing their notepad or just shouting at their subordinates, but that’s rarely a solution. In situations as infuriating as these, are there any comfort zones or instant relief elements that can help you keep you as calm, composed and collected as the amazing person you really are?
Keep Calm and Ask these Questions
As most of you may have heard, Wayne Dyer passed away on Saturday evening in Hawaii. He was 75.
Dr. Dyer was an inspiring and prolific writer and speaker. I think I've read almost every one of his 30 books.
Although I did not agree with EVERYTHING Wayne taught, I learned a lot from him and had nothing but respect for him and his work.
Twenty years ago, Dawn and I brought him to Burlington Vermont for his first, and I think only, appearance. It was something I'd wanted to do for a long time and it was the only time I met him in person. It was an honor to introduce him to a large crowd at the Flynn Center. We were supposed to play tennis together (another item on my Bucket List) but the weather did not cooperate.
If you are not that familiar with his work, I encourage you to get some of his books. You'll See It When You Believe It, was one of my favorites, but they are all good.
Rest in peace, Dr. Dyer. You will be greatly missed.
As I wrote in my book, The Achievement Code, “Almost everyone wants to be clear, but not many people are looking for clarity. It’s not something they type into a search engine.”
And yet we do want to be clear. We want clarity as to what we want, why we want it and how to get it. We want to be clear on our beliefs and values, what’s true and what isn’t. We want clear communication, clear understanding and clear positions.
Francois Gautier wrote, “More important than certainty is the quest for clarity.”
There are many things we can do to gain that clarity. Research, reflection, soul searching, asking people we trust, experimentation and more. But whatever path to clarity we may use, we first have to acknowledge that we are UNclear—or at least want to be MORE clear.