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Inadequate Support (5th in a 10-Part Series)

“You can do anything as long as you have the passion,
the drive, the focus, and the support.”

—Sabrina Bryan

Many people feel very much alone on the road to success. And some people actually are. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to go it alone. In fact, trying to go it alone is a fool’s errand.

Whether you own your own business or work for someone else, you need to have the right kind of support to be successful. Just like a table needs legs and a house needs a foundation, you need to be supported in living your best life.

Do you have the support you need? Are you sure?
Do you know what areas of your support system that need shoring up?
Do you know how to get the help you need?

In addressing this issue, I have the following major premises:

1. If you can accomplish your goal by yourself, you probably don’t have a big enough goal.

2. Everything is easier with help and support—and more fun, too.

3. Having a team increases your confidence and allows you to think bigger.

4. There’s no need to re-invent the wheel.

And these are what I see as the biggest enemies of having sufficient support:

1. Pride, arrogance 

2. Stubbornness

3. Not realizing how important proper support is.

4. Having a “Maverick Complex”

5. Not knowing where to turn

6. Thinking you can’t afford it

Any one of these things can hold you back, and even stop you from creating the support network you need and want.

Our purpose here at SuccessNet is to help great people and great companies to become even better. We exist to support you in being your best. So we are all about support and have been for almost 20 years.

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Delegating some of your work load to others is one of the simplest ways to create support. It’s not always easy at first because many times those you delegate to will not do things as well as you do. But it’s essential to leveraging yourself.

Having a personal assistant is most likely the first best step. And this might seem a bit strong, but you either have an assistant or you are one.

Master Mind Teams
You can form your own Master Mind Team. A master mind team is simply a small group of people who band together to help each other achieve their goals. For more info on this very powerful strategy, re-read the chapter on The Master Mind in Think and Grow Rich.

Hire a Coach
Every single successful person I’ve ever studied had a mentor—in many cases, several. Professional athletes have coaches. Why shouldn’t you? Feel free to contact me if you are interested in me coaching you in creating your best life.

Board of Directors
If you own a small business, I strongly urge you to have an active board of directors—or at least an advisory board. People are glad to help by providing their experience, perspective and collective wisdom.

Having reserves gives you much more confidence and less chance for fear. Things like cash, good credit, a pre-approved credit line. Budgeting more time than you think you will need is another way to build up reserves.

The important thing is to bolster your life and your endeavors with reserves.

Having the tools you need, the machinery that’s required and the equipment you want to do the job right is all part of the support game. Buy, rent or borrow what you need to get things done.

Your Environment
The people and things around you have a profound impact on you and your ability to achieve. You must take charge of who and what you allow into your life. And you cannot afford to have negative people and unsupportive physical environments drag you down.

Professional Support Team
Be sure you have access to attorneys, accountants and industry-specific experts.

Lifelong Learning
The knowledge and wisdom you possess is an integral part of your support network. What you know and what you learn are powerful confidence and support builders. Commit to lifetime learning and never-ending improvement. Because the biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.

“You can’t learn less.”

—Bucky Fuller

I’ve seen far too many well-intentioned, hard-working, sincere people struggle and even fail because they were unaware or didn’t pay close enough attention to creating and maintaining a winning support system.

Take a hard, honest look at your support system—or lack thereof. Having great support positions you for winning. Not having it sets you up for losing. It’s that simple.

The Best Life Navigator™ launches soon. It allows you to keep your personal and professional growth front and center. And it’s uniquely designed to provide you with full support at your fingertips. It has the tools you need for your success—all in one place.

Action Steps

1. Identify your top 3 areas of support to improve

2. List 3 action steps you will take to do so

3. Take those steps

If you would like to explore any of these strategies in more depth, we are happy to help. Please contact us via our Help Desk.

Stay tuned for the next installment of The Top 10 Reasons Good People Don’t Always Win. You’ll receive it in the next few days. Do you have a guess as to what might be the next of the Top 10 Reasons?

Please Tell Us What You Think
I’ve published this article and the previous one here on my Blog. Please add your comments, questions and suggestions at the bottom of the post. Your feedback and engagement is important. If you disagree with anything, say so. If you have questions, ask. If you have additional insights or resources, please share. I promise to read every one. Thank you.

BTW, you’ll gain even greater value from this series if you have a copy of my book, The Achievement Code: The 3C Formula for Getting What You Truly Want (available in print or Kindle). Details at

Previous installments of this series are located here on my Blog.

1. Insufficient Desire

2. Lack of—or Erroneous—Beliefs

3. Confusion, Lack of Clarity

4. Lack of Focus and Concentration

The Top 10 Reasons Good People Don’t Always Win (Part 2 of a 10-part series)

Lack of—or Erroneous—Beliefs

The fact is, people who consistently achieve their goals think differently than those who don’t. They have different beliefs and they focus on different things.

Our beliefs affect our thoughts, our thoughts drive our feelings and our feelings determine the actions we take—or don’t take. The genesis of our results is our beliefs—or lack thereof.

So lack of—or erroneous—beliefs is the second biggest reason why smart, hard-working, well intentioned people don’t always succeed.

If you don’t believe you will win, you’ll never try. You have to believe that you will prevail, you have to believe in your path, and you have to believe in yourself.

Of course, no accomplishment is guaranteed. But you have to have some reasonable expectation you can hit your target—otherwise, why bother.

If someone else has accomplished what you want to accomplish, you know it can be done. And if it’s never been done, you can be first.

Do whatever you need to do to get your belief to a point where you know you can do it.

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act,
but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.”

—Anatole France

In 1969, the New York Mets won the World Series. Until then, this hapless team—only 7 years old—had been the laughing stock of the league. One day, Tug McGraw, their pitcher, said to his team, “You gotta believe.” For some reason, the media picked up on this. So did the fans. And that whole summer the slogan became the mantra for a world championship.

So, like the Met’s, You Gotta Believe.

Beliefs Create Our Attitude and Outlook Toward Life
The story is told of a traveler, who upon approaching a great city, asked a man by the wayside, “What are the people like in this city?”

The wise, old man responded, “How were the people where you came from?”

“A terrible bunch,” the traveler responded. “Mean, untrustworthy, detestable in all respects.”

“Well,” said the sage, “You’ll find them much the same in the city ahead.”

Soon after the first traveler had gone, another one stopped and also inquired about the people in the nearby city. Again, the old man asked about the people in the place from which the  traveler had come.

“They were fine people: honest, industrious and generous to a fault. I was sorry to leave,” declared the second traveler.

The sage responded, “And so you will find them in the city ahead.”

Our beliefs—and our expectations created by our beliefs—are powerful things indeed. What you believe dramatically affects your life.

I’m fond of saying, “We don’t always get what we want, but we almost always get what we expect.”

And yet, how often do we seriously examine what we believe to be true? Could you articulate what you believe in your heart?

My research has shown that successful people—those who consistently achieve what they set out to do—have different beliefs than those who are unsuccessful.

Some of these beliefs came from their background. Many of them were picked up from their parents. Others were acquired later in life. They chose them.

They don’t begrudge the success of others. They don’t expect something for nothing.

They believe that opportunities abound in any economy. They have a consciousness of abundance. They are generous. They believe in patience.

And, they believe in themselves. They expect to win.

Example: It’s very common for first-generation immigrants to America to be more economically successful than their American native counterparts.

The reason is they expect to succeed. They perceive America as a land of opportunity, and they work hard to take advantage of it. They’ve been told that anyone can be successful. They succeed because they believe they will.


“To believe in the things you can see and touch is no belief at all:
but to believe in the unseen is a triumph and a blessing.”

—Abraham Lincoln

Our beliefs create our view of the world.

Many people think they ARE their beliefs. They think that what they believe is who they are.

But we are not our beliefs. We have beliefs. And we have choice—if we’re aware—of what we believe and what we want to believe.


“The thing always happens that you really believe in;
and the belief in a thing makes it happen.”

—Frank Lloyd Wright

Installing New Belief Systems

Be open to new ideas and new beliefs. One person described insanity as doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. If that’s the case, holding the same unhelpful and damaging beliefs will likely produce the same results. Expecting them to do differently is well, crazy.

It’s imperative that we stay aware of beliefs that no longer serve us and open ourselves to ideas and beliefs that support us in being our best.

Hold fast to those beliefs that work and be willing to discard those that don’t.

Sounds easy, doesn’t it—but observe how rarely this is done.


“One person with a belief is equal to a force of
ninety-nine who have only interest.”

—John Stewart Mill


When we choose to embrace a more effective belief, we often have to integrate it into our psyche, and affirmations can be very effective.

We don’t say affirmations to make them true; we say them because they’re true. The intention is to convince ourselves of what we know to be true.

Tony Robbins says, “All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs.” I agree.

We must stand guard at the door of our mind. What we listen to, what we read, who we hang out with and what we think about affects our beliefs. By being aware and mindful of what we believe, we can position ourselves to succeed and live more balanced and fulfilling lives.


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“He can who thinks he can, and he can’t who thinks he can’t.
This is an inexorable, indisputable law.”

—Henry Ford

Take Action

  1. Continue adding to your Dream List.
  2. Begin to select some of the most important of them as potential goals.
  3. Narrow that list to three goals.
  4. For each of your top goals, write down the reasons why you want to achieve it. List all the benefits and pay-offs to accomplishing the goal.
  5. Make a list of all of your beliefs. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
  • What are my empowering beliefs?
  • Which ones support me?
  • What do I stand for?
  • What are my Core Values?
  • What are my dis-empowering beliefs?
  • Which beliefs detract from my success?

Stay tuned for the next installment of The Top 10 Reasons Good People Don’t Always Win. Do you have a guess as to what might be the next of the Top 10 Reasons?

Please Tell Us What You Think
Please add your comments, questions and suggestions at the bottom of this post. Your feedback and engagement is important. If you disagree with anything, say so. If you have questions, ask. If you have additional insights or resources, please share. I promise to read every one. Thank you.

BTW, you’ll gain even greater value from this series if you have a copy of my book, The Achievement Code: The 3C Formula for Getting What You Truly Want (available in print or Kindle). Details at


“Your chances of success in any undertaking can
always be measured by your belief in yourself.”

— Robert Collier

The Top 10 Reasons Why Good People Don’t Win

If you’re as successful as you want to be, then this series isn’t for you.

But if you know that you can and truly want to live closer to your full and unique potential, you’ve come to the right place.

I’ve been studying and coaching successful people and successful organizations for almost 40 years. As a student and teacher of success principles, I’ve learned some important lessons in life—some of them at great expense. I’ve also studied the best and the brightest minds to glean from them what works—and doesn’t work—in creating a life we can be proud of.

I have some good news and some bad news. The bad news is that there’s no key to the door of success. But the good news is the door isn’t locked. There are many pieces to the success puzzle, for sure. And there’s no one thing that ensures your success. It’s possible to experience substantial achievement without having all the pieces, but why not stack the deck in your favor?

In this course, I’ll be sharing with you the reasons smart, hardworking and well-intentioned people usually live far below their potential. And I will show you how to overcome these obstacles so you can plan, create and live your best life.

My intention is to help you go for what you really want. It’s based on my belief that you can achieve anything you want in life but not everything you want. And that’s why we must choose carefully what we dedicate our best efforts.

Knowing and understanding the things that keep you from being your best will help you create your life in a way that positions you for success.

So. Let’s get started.

“Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon . . . must inevitably come to pass!”

—Paul J. Meyer

One of the biggest reasons smart, hard-working, well-intentioned people don’t win is that they simply have Insufficient Desire.

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement; not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.”

—Napoleon Hill

Desire is the why you want something. And the why is far more important than how you get it. Without a strong enough why, the how is very insignificant.

Napoleon Hill devoted an entire chapter in Think and Grow Rich to the subject of desire. He obviously thought it was important enough to be the very first of the 13 steps, calling it The First Step Toward Riches. He knew that without a strong enough Why, any challenges or obstacles you encounter will cause you to give up, procrastinate—or give it less than your best.

Reasons come first. Answers come second.

It seems like the universe hangs onto solutions and only gives them up to those who are sufficiently inspired and committed—those with real desire.

Any big goal will have obstacles. There will be changes you’ll have to make and problems that will have to be solved.

Mark Twain once said that he could teach anyone how to get what they wanted, but that he couldn’t find anyone who actually knew what they wanted. Sadly it’s as true today as it was in the 1800s when Twain said it.

Knowing what you truly want and having a big enough reason to go after it, is one of the biggest keys to success. Someone in possession of a powerful desire will almost always surpass someone with more skill and more knowledge—but a smaller amount of desire. The person who has sufficient desire will do whatever it takes to accomplish the objective. Whatever stands in the way must surrender to the will of the truly determined.

People who get big things done are passionate about what they do. And if your desire is lacking, you simply will not make the progress you want. And you will lose to those who have greater passion.

So finding your why is likely the single most important thing you can do to win the game. And having a strong why will ensure that you are playing a game worth playing.

Without sufficient desire, you don’t have the commitment and the dedication to overcome the challenges, weather the disappointments, develop the disciplines required and make the tough decisions to achieve your big goals.

You might think that you suffer from procrastination and that you just aren’t that disciplined, but I don’t think so. I believe that it’s insufficient desire first and foremost.

Big goals require more than just an interest. They need commitment and dedication. You have to really care about achieving your goals—really care.

If you have a goal (or several) that you say you’re committed to achieve, but have not made much progress with, take another look. Is it REALLY something you want? Does it truly inspire you? Is it something you ardently desire? Or is it perhaps a “should”? Or someone else’s goal.

If it is something you want, revisit your why. Because a powerful desire will turn your wishbone into a backbone.

“The bigger the why, the easier the how. Why will trump how every  time.”

—Jim Rohn

Strategies for Increasing Desire
So how do you go about finding more desire—or creating it?

Know Yourself. The better you know yourself, the easier it is to choose and achieve your goals. Knowing what really makes you happy—your core values, your beliefs and your priorities—makes deciding on your goals easier and gives you a greater chance to succeed.

Feel Worthy. First and foremost, I think you have to give yourself permission to have what you truly want. Too often, I find people thinking they aren’t worthy and don’t deserve to have more. Feeling worthy is a decision. If you can dream it, you are deserving of it.

And you having what you want does not mean someone else goes without or will have less—unless you were to desire something that belongs exclusively to someone else. You wanting and achieving something big usually means that many other people will benefit as well. If you buy a bigger, better house, lots of people will benefit. If you take a trip around the world, many people will be paid for their services.

Think Big. Dream Big. I don’t know anyone who is guilty of thinking too big. But I know many who think too small. Sure, there are those who talk big but never do anything about it. Those are pipe dreams. And sometimes you have to act in small ways to achieve big things. But do you really know anyone who was too big a thinker?

“Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die,
life is like a broken wing’d bird that cannot fly.”

—Langston Hughes

Hang around big thinkers and big doers. Stretch yourself. Get out of your comfort zone. Go to open houses for homes two and three and even ten times grander than the one in which you live. Test drive some beautiful cars. Get some brochures of exotic vacations. Start a Dream Board and paste some inspiring “big thinking” pictures.

It’s really no harder to think big than it is to think small. Just as it’s no harder to earn a million dollars a year than $100,000. You certainly don’t have to work ten times as hard. What it takes is a decision, a commitment and practice.

Big, audacious goals have the ability to transform you, your team and your organization. A butterfly is not a better caterpillar. It’s completely new. It’s transformed. And that’s what you can be when you are sufficiently inspired and filled with desire.

Turn Up the Heat. If you truly want something but seem lacking in motivation and suffering from a deficiency in progress, you have to ramp up your mojo.

Focus on how good things will be when you achieve your goal. Visualize, affirm and bask in the glory of success.  If it’s losing weight, think about how great it will feel to wear that new suit to that upcoming wedding (two sizes smaller). List ALL the benefits of being healthier, fitter, more agile—and sexier.

Conversely, emphasize the pain and anguish of not hitting your target. You’re not just a few pounds overweight (unless you really are), you’re fat—obese even. Think about the fact that you are literally digging your grave with your teeth.

In short, identify all the rewards of winning and emphasize them. And then accentuate the agony of failure. Visualize a  bigger, sweeter carrot and a bigger, more painful stick.

You’re looking to set and achieve goals that you feel passionate about. Ones that charge your emotions and fire your soul. After all, why invest the best of you in something you would only like to accomplish. Go after something you HAVE to have—something the mere pursuit of which excites you. As Lord Byron said, “In great attempts is it glorious even to fail.”

“I want to be around people who do things. I don’t want to be around people who judge or talk about what people do. I want to be around people who dream and support and accomplish things.”

—Amy Poehler


  • Read or re-read Napoleon Hill’s chapter on Desire in Think and Grow Rich. It’s the first of the 13 Steps.
  • Our brand new Best Life Navigator™ is launching November 15th. Think of it as your Swiss Army Knife for creating your best life. It has some great tools for brainstorming your deepest desires and helping you clarify what you want most—and more importantly WHY you want them. In addition, it allows you to keep these highly desired goals front and center—and all in one place. It has all the tools you need for success all in one place.

Take Action
I encourage you to start a list of everything you can think of that you’ve ever wanted in your life. Big things, small things—it doesn’t matter. They should all go on the list.

This is not a time to be judgmental. What you write down doesn’t even need to be practical. Let your imagination wander. If you find yourself thinking something is silly, impractical or too expensive, write it down anyway.

This is your dream list. So dream away. Add to your list often and review it on a regular basis.

Star, bold or underline those ideas you are more interested in or passionate about.

This is the beginning of a simple yet profound process of determining what you really, really want.

It can and should be a list you maintain as a lifelong endeavor. It’s a list you can mine and sift through from time to time to look for the golden nuggets that will become your goals.

By writing these ideas down, you clarify your thinking. Don’t leave them in your head. Get them out and get them down. A dull pencil is better than even the sharpest memory.

Don’t think it, ink it.

Start your list of everything you ever wanted today. Don’t judge. Just write with abandon. These are not goals, but rather wild ideas. You are not committing to achieve them. Think big. Be bold.

Later you will use these ideas to help you pick from them the important goals that you will commit to going for.

Because your desire truly matters. And what you really and truly want will determine, almost more than any other thing, whether or not you win.

Please stay tuned for the next installment of The Top 10 Reasons Good People Don’t Always Win. Any guesses as to what the next of the Top 10 Reasons is?

A Request . . . Please Tell Us What You Think
Please add your comments, questions and suggestions at the bottom of this post. Your feedback and engagement is important. If you disagree with anything, say so. If you have questions, ask. If you have additional insights or resources, please share. I promise to read every one. Thank you.

BTW, you’ll gain even greater value from this series if you have a copy of my book, The Achievement Code: The 3C Formula for Getting What You Truly Want (available in print or Kindle). Details at