Archive for April, 2011

SuccessNet Principle #4: Correction Without Invalidation

There is no virtue in guilt. It’s a negative emotion and produces nothing but pain. We all make mistakes and a sign of maturity is to accept one’s errors, make corrections and move on.

It’s easier said than done, I know—but you CAN learn how to do this.

You can’t un-ring a bell. What’s done is done.  And even God can’t change what’s already occurred.

What happened yesterday is just as over as the Civil War. And you should be no more upset about it than the tragedies of that time—because they’re over.

Remember the 11th Commandment: Thou Shalt Not Should on Thyself or Others.

Make the past into a springboard and not a hammock.

Related Resource: 101 Best Ways to Be Your Best

Staying Afloat or Sailing to Your Next Port

You could make a lot of analogies about how life is like sailing a ship. And today, allow me to make some comparisons about how we need to take care of our ship (stay afloat) and also move toward our intended destination.

Taking care of your ship is critical to your mission. Without your ship in good condition, you won’t be able to weather the storms, and you’ll be unable to make safe and steady progress to your objectives.

But some people seem to get stuck in maintenance—fixing problems, making things look and work better. That’s good, but if that’s ALL you do, then you won’t be able to get to your next port of call. You’ll be stuck in home port getting ready to go.

It’s a balancing game for sure. And lots of things can keep us caught up in the staying afloat mode. Fear of the unknown, perfectionism, being too busy, not being clear on which port or why you want to go can easily keep you motionless.

You will never have a perfect ship. You can always make it better, safer and more attractive. But ships are made for sailing. They rust in port.

Fix leaks? You bet. Test the equipment? Sure. Take on reserve supplies of food, fuel and water? Good idea.

But at some point you have to set sail. You can’t only do maintenance and make improvements. And you have to continue making forward progress and all the while work at staying afloat.

There are risks upon the sea. There always will be. And challenges can be painful even though they make us better and stronger. But the pain of regret is greater than the pain of discipline.

You may not have the safest ship in the world. It may be smaller or it may not look as good as others. But if you wait for the perfect vessel, the ideal winds or the optimum tide, you may never get under way.

Your dreams lie in distant ports. Cast off, weigh anchor and set sail.

And continue to maintain and improve your ship as you go. Train your crew, maintain the boat, improve your skills and enjoy the adventure as you steadily make progress to your next destination.

Look at your goals, your projects and your task list. Are you just working at staying afloat or are you also making good forward progress?

Make it a great one.

Related Resources . . .

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SuccessNet Principle #3: Clarity Leads to Power

What you want—and don’t want—and how you’re going to get it are critical components to success.

Being clear on who you are, what you stand for, your values, your goals and what really matters to you is the foundation of a happy and fulfilling life.

Your unconscious mind as well as your conscious mind—and all those around you—respond to specificity. Vague, general, non-specific intentions have no power.

“The whole world steps aside for the man who knows where he is going.” (unknown)

Related Resources . . .

Your Core Values Course (most popular)

SuccessNet’s Goal Planner

Step Up to Success Course